Are you one of the many North Carolina residents who is thinking about ending your marriage, but are afraid to do it? You fear the unknown. You wonder if you can do life as a single person again.
Here’s the thing. Yes, the thought of divorce and life after can be frightening. There will be a lot of changes and adjustments that you’ll have to make. However scary that may seem, you can still have a good life after divorce, so don’t let your fears stand in the way of that. You deserve to be happy.
One woman’s story
An editor for the New York Times recently shared her divorce story, and it is one that may help a lot of people — who are afraid of moving forward with divorce — ultimately decide if ending their marriage is right for them. When she first thought about ending her marriage, she was scared about having to handle everything. Between her children, the housework, managing finances and her career, it all seemed like too much for one person to do alone.
What did she do? She started doing small things to prove to herself she could, beginning with mowing the lawn — normally something she left to her husband. That one small thing gave her confidence to do other things her husband took care of, and eventually, she realized she could survive if she pursued the divorce — so she did. When needed, she called in professionals, friends and neighbors to help.
What she learned
She learned that divorce is hard and scary, but for her situation, it was worth it. It was better for her and her family. She learned she can do more than she ever thought possible. She also learned it is okay to ask for help when needed.
Don’t let fear keep you from the life you want
Divorce is a difficult thing to go through. Anyone who has been through it will tell you that. However, you can get through it if you ultimately decide it is what you want. With the right help in your corner, you can walk away from your marriage with a fair and balanced settlement that will benefit you as you strive to move forward and build the life you want for yourself.